Parent Positive Kids

PreSchool: Parenting Multiples

Stress and Depression Why start with such a negative topic? While most parents manage and enjoy their twins or higher multiples, some do not. There are now several population-based studies that show a higher rate of depression in parents of young twins that is not just postnatal depression, but ongoing problems right up to school-age. There have been no really convincing studies of triplets. However, one study from well before the birth found that almost 40% of parents were being treated with […]

Should “Multiples” Be Separated In School?

Together or apart? Concerning separation in school, Helen Koch (1966, p134) states: “There have been endless assertions about the hazards of not keeping twin-pair members apart at school, and the time for disjoining is usually affirmed to be when the children enter school. It is a common beedis-joining usually affirmed to be when the children enter school. It is a common belief that twins on the entrance to school have, because of their youth, fabulous powers of adjustment and that dissociation from the sib […]

PreSchool: Helping Your Multiple Develop Language Skills

1. Are multiples more likely to be delayed and why? In the preschool years, all children develop language skills. Over the last 70 years, many studies have indicated this is the area where twins and higher multiples are most likely to be different from single-born children. Thus, language is the main focus of this section. Delays in language have complex and wide-ranging implications for children’s development. Multiples may be behind singletons in their articulation and in their ability to express themselves. Their […]
Sibling Rivalry

Sibling Rivalry by experienced counselor Anita Broomberg

Anita Broomberg is a qualified counselor, with over 25 years of experience in dealing with parents and children, and in running parenting skills training groups, covering topics such as discipline, sibling rivalry, etc. She conducts a six-week parenting group at £20 per two-hour session. Editor’s introduction I first came across Anita through my dear friend, Nicki. Nicki was attending one of Anita’s courses on Sibling rivalry and was raving about it – how much insight it gave her into what was happening […]
Hamburger Stuffed Bread

It’s the “Just Say No to Turkey” Weekend

Can you feel it? The panic is starting to build. It’s the “what-am-I-going-to-do-with-74-pounds-of-leftover-turkey?” trauma. It begins as soon as you realize that the turkey has been sitting out way past its salmonella bedtime and all the extra space in your fridge has been taken up with bottles of Monkey Bay Sauvignon Blanc. In a convenient economy size. After off-loading most of the meat into takeaway containers for my guests, I start to longingly eye the trash can. I know, I know. I […]
help for parents of multiples

Single? Where to Find Help For Parents Of Multiples?

No longer are single moms a rarity: The current U.S. Census Bureau figures are high, says Andrea Engber, director and founder of the National Organization of Single Mothers, single mother columnist for Working Mother magazine and the editor of single mother newsletter. In the book, The Complete Single Mother, co-author single moms Engber and Leah Klungness, Ph.D., noted that “28 percent of all (U.S.) births were to single moms.” And today, the phenomenon of single motherhood “crosses every demographic stratum. In fact, […]
Teens Experimenting With drugs

What Are Your Options When Your Teen Is Trying Drugs

Let’s assume you have a 16-year-old boy who is starting to experiment with drugs. Let’s say he smokes a bit of dope and just tried mushrooms. If you have talked about this with him and he seems to understand the dangers, what options are you left with that will not alienate him? This is one of those ongoing issues between many parents and teenagers. Drugs and alcohol are dangerous to adolescents development. In a worst case scenario, they put a stop to […]

10 Ways To Bring Creativity Into Your Every Day Life

1. Sing in public. 2. Make up your own words. Call a fortune cookie a “pork chop cookie”. 3. Wear funny hats. 4. Believe anything is possible. 5. Make a big mess. 6. Recycle. 7. Draw on napkins in restaurants, on bill envelopes, on the walls, on the screen door, on your body, on anything you can get your hands on. 8. Be inspired. 9. Anthropomorphize everything. Make the salt and pepper shakers talk to each other. 10. Build your dream home.

Monday Mug OCD

So as I’ve mentioned before, I have a few OCD tendencies. Nothing major, and nothing that really slows down my day, just a few things that if not done properly leave me with an impending sense of dread. One of these is my morning coffee mug rotation. The morning mug rotation began when I was single and had moved into an apartment that had a dishwasher. I wasn’t going to wash mugs out one at a time when I could just stack […]